Sexual Purity - Interview with Mrs Titilope Adigun

SEXUAL PURITY IS POSSIBLE ! – Interview with Mrs. Titilope Adigun

Hello beautiful people!

Today’s episode of “Meet Me” is with the National Coordinator of the MINE Teenage Ministry.

If I should keep looking for the right word to describe her, I am probably going to spend the whole day and still wouldn’t get it.

Please get yourself a cup of chilled tea and relax yourself while you read.

 

Mary: Thank you Mrs. Titilope Adigun for accepting this interview.

 

Firstly, can we have an introduction to YOU?

 

Titilope Adigun: Accepting this interview is a pleasure 😁

 

I am T.H.A.D.A – Titilope Hadassah Adetola Didun Adigun😁. Three of these names are not on my birth certificate because my husband gave them to me.

 

I am happily married to Oluwatimilehin Adigun and God gave us the privilege of nurturing three amazing children. Together, we coordinate MINE Teenage Ministry and pastor The Ark Church, both dedicated to reaching and grooming teenagers and young adults.

 

I am a Pharmacist (graduate of Obafemi Awolowo University) by profession with a growing love for healthy living advocacy.

 

I am a native of Osun state though MANY people think I am an Ibo woman.

 

Mary: How was growing up like?

 

Titilope Adigun: Growing up for me was not exactly interesting or ‘fun’. I am a first child of four children and my parents were more about me setting the pace for my siblings and being responsible so the expectations from me were really high. I must say that I worked hard to live up to those expectations! I didn’t get to go out a lot and I didn’t have friends. I was AFRAID to mess up so I couldn’t even explore the other side😁.

 

I didn’t know so much, at least most of my mates knew more than I did. I like to say God kept me by Himself, from falling into wrong hands. My ignorance or naivety could have been taken advantage of, but God kept me.

 

I grew up in a very conservative Christian family. I knew there is a God in heaven, but it was more religion than a relationship with Him. But I was hungry for Him and being perfect was my goal!

 

Mary: Who or what is your biggest inspiration?

 

Titilope Adigun: G.O.D!

 

 

Mary: What is the vision and purpose behind WVD?

 

Titilope Adigun: WVD is World Virginity Day! It is an act of obedience to an instruction God gave my husband in January 2011!

 

WVD, celebrated every second Saturday in June, is a voice to let:

Virgins know that they are normal and being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, rather something to be unapologetically proud of.

Non- virgins know that though they have lost their virginity, they can choose to stay sexually pure till marriage and they actually deserve to be celebrated because of the greater challenge of staying pure after tasting it.

 

Mary: Wow! It’s the 10th edition of the World Virginity Day this year, how has the journey been so far?

 

Titilope Adigun: The God leading us on the journey has not left us, so we are pressing on against all odds! With every passing year, it gets bigger as God magnifies our voice for more to hear and join the train.

 

Mary: I remember the first time I came across the #NoSUM hashtag, I was so curious to get the actual meaning. Ma, Can you please shed more light on the #NoSUM?

 

Titilope Adigun: #NoSUM is an acronym for No Sex Until Marriage. Though the theme is different every year, the crux of the message has always been No Sex Until Marriage! #NoSUM has been a registered trademark on many lips and on many hearts, reminding them that sexual purity is possible!

 

Mary: Since the beginning of WVD, what is the most unusual experience you’ve ever had?

 

Titilope Adigun: Most unusual experience 😁. The first edition, I guess. It was a week to our wedding and the T-shirts we wore had ‘I’m proud to be a virgin’ written on them. We had a band play ahead of us while we danced and distributed fliers that had sexual purity articles on them. More people mocked us than praised us, thankfully the tide is turning really fast now.

 

Mary: What has God taught you through sexual purity?

 

Titilope Adigun: God has taught me that in the midst of evil, there is still good. There is a remnant generation that God has preserved and who have not bowed to the god of sexual immorality.

 

He has taught me that indeed sin did not and doesn’t have a chance in competition with the aggressive forgiveness we call grace. When it’s sin versus grace, grace wins hands down Romans 5:20 MSG! God’s love is real and indeed nothing, not even sexual sins, can separate us from His love!

 

Mary: “Staying a virgin does not equate sexual purity.” Can you talk more on how true that statement is?

 

Titilope Adigun: Staying a virgin does not equate sexual purity! This is a big deal. I say it is a big deal because this is one reason some guys don’t agree that Virginity applies to males and why some girls get confused about this whole issue of Virginity.

 

The general and basic understanding of Virginity is an ‘intact hymen’. But like we have discovered that while some ladies don’t have the hymen at all, some lose theirs through other means apart from sex. These two categories, by the general definition of Virginity, would be wrongly judged.

 

Let me also say that the Mind is the first ‘sexual organ’. This means that every sexual move in the body first happens in the mind.

 

For this reason, I want to say that though it is beautiful and honorable to keep the hymen ( if you still have it) and the penis intact and untouched, it is way more honorable and dignifying, especially before God, to keep the mind clean.  This is a higher call for every unmarried person. Being very selective about what enters the mind through the eyes and ears is a huge gift to You! When you allow only clean, edifying things through the gates of your mind, you are more likely with God’s help to not awaken love (either with someone else or with yourself) before the appointed time, which is in marriage.

 

Virginity with God, is a combination of an intact or untouched sexual organ (physical and for both sexes) and a clean mind, nothing impure with either yourself or with someone else. Simply put, HONOURING GOD IN YOUR BODY!!!!!

 

When you prayerfully decide and enter into a relationship and pleasing to God is your goal, you show that you trust God about everything including your future.

Mary: I’ve heard many people say, “staying a virgin till marriage does not guarantee a happy marriage.”. So my question is what’s in it for me, if I decide to stay pure?

 

Titilope Adigun: There is more to marriage than our sexuality! One good reason, and possibly the best reason, to stay pure and undefined is because you want to honor God, the owner of your body. He paid such a huge price to have you for Himself and taking care of your body is the smallest thing you can do to show how much you value such a sacrifice.

 

Other reasons are to save yourself from disease, unwanted pregnancy that might force you to make horrible decisions,  and to save yourself  from other complications that could mess up a whole lot of things!!!

 

Staying pure is a choice you make for your own ultimate good. It is one of (not the only) the important boxes to tick when  preparing for a lifetime of bliss in marriage.

 

Mary: As a youth that have concluded in my heart to not have sex, is it Biblical to kiss before marriage?

 

Titilope Adigun: Biblical? No it is not! Though you might not see it directly stated as a commandment ‘Do not kiss before marriage’, I know you know that the chances that sex will happen before marriage heighten when the two individuals begin to kiss! It is like opening a tap, leaving it open  and expecting there not to be a ‘flood’ in the room or house! What you will not eat, don’t smell it😁. If you can wait for marriage to have sex, then you can wait till marriage to have your first kiss and continue from there!

 

Mary: Staying sexually pure in this generation can be very hard to maintain. Ma, how can I ensure that I maintain my stand always?

 

Titilope Adigun: Constantly remind yourself of who you are and whose you are! Feed on the Word and meditate on all the Bible says about your true identity.

Stay in God’s presence. Abide, dwell in the consciousness of His ever abiding presence in worship and in prayer.

Ensure that you belong to a community of people who are standing with you in your sexual purity stand!

Guard your heart and mind with all diligence!!!! Be media-wise. Just like you will not settle down to eat a hot, spicy, bowl of poo🤮, don’t feed your mind with thrash. Guard your gates like you know that you have treasures locked in and access is so limited!!!

 

Prayerfully get someone to be accountable to. If you have struggles,  please don’t keep quiet, seek help.

 

Get busy for God and with yourself (hands and mind).

 

Mary: One of the many fears of nowadays youth is that, after deciding to stay away from sex only to discover some kind of infertility or medical issues in marriage. It’s better to test what you are buying. What is your take on such a statement?

 

Titilope Adigun: I want to believe that children of God don’t belong to this group of youths? When you prayerfully decide and enter into a relationship and pleasing God is your goal, you show that you trust God about everything, including your future.

 

When God is involved in your decision and your courtship journey, you can be sure every detail will be taken care of. If there is ever a delay with childbearing,  you have confidence to go to God to seek His intervention and He will come through!

 

Testing what you are buying is never a guarantee! Sex and childbearing are only parts of what make for a great union. And when you test, do you intend to have or be a pregnant bride? If yes, are you prepared to deal with all that may come with your own journey? For the young men, how many ladies do you want to test and what if you contact a disease while testing? For the young ladies, do you really want to be tested or be part of the number of ladies a guy tested? Why not build yourself in God to a point where you are 200% sure of what you carry and how much of a whole package you are?

 

Mary: What’s your take on teenage / dating relationships?

 

Titilope Adigun: I don’t believe in dating,  which is more of a sampling game, toying with people’s emotions and wasting time. I am an advocate of ‘ you get into a relationship with the opposite sex with marriage in view’.

 

The teen age is best enjoyed without such deep emotional attachment to the opposite sex. There is so much to that phase of life that getting into a relationship,  almost always messes up.

 

So dear teenager, spend this  special phase of your life building your relationship with God, finding and nurturing great friendships, devoting your energy to service and worthy causes, discovering yourself and doing amazing exploits in your world.

 

Mary: In your own opinion, what’s the common mistakes made by singles and how can it be avoided?

 

Titilope Adigun: There are quite a number of mistakes singles(and people generally) make! Some common ones are:

 

Comparison – there is a lot of ‘see my mates’ that happens in singles’ circles.  Dear single, you might be the same age or share so many similarities with others in your circle but know that you are different! And until you embrace and get comfortable with the peculiarities of you and of your journey, you won’t exactly enjoy your life!

 

Misplaced Priorities – God first ALWAYS! Your relationship with God, consistently well nurtured, is your greatest asset ever! Every other good thing of life flows from it. Then building character in yourself is an investment that yields returns all through your life. Money, a lavish wedding or having children cannot be given in exchange for these two.

 

Wholeness – you need to be whole as an individual before you decide to do life with another individual, who also has to be whole! Not being whole makes you place unrealistic expectations on the other person. Allow yourself to heal, deal with emotional baggage, win the battles of the mind and master the things that give you victory before bringing another person in.

 

Time – many singles, especially ladies are not enjoying and maximizing their single hood because they wrongly think that their joy is in having the ring in their finger or being called Mrs. Please ENJOY where you are in the way to where you are going. There is something sweet about having no regrets when you know you enjoyed your journey to becoming.

 

Mary: What’s your favourite Scripture of the Bible? And why?

 

Titilope Adigun: I don’t think I have a favourite scripture in the Bible. So I will give one out of the many scriptures I love:

 

“My old identity has been co-crucified with Messiah and no longer lives; for the nails of his cross crucified me with him . And now the essence of this new life is no longer mine, for the Anointed One lives his life through me— we live in union as one ! My new life is empowered by the faith of the Son of God who loves me so much that he gave himself for me, and dispenses his life into mine!

Galatians 2:20 TPT

 

I love this scripture because it describes my reality!

 

Mary: If a young adult walked up to you asking for your advice on a failed relationship and you only had a few minutes to given him/her your best, what would it be?

 

Titilope Adigun: In a few minutes, I will tell him or her to:

 

Go back to God, hoping that God was involved in the beginning of the relationship.

 

Do a self evaluation of what went wrong, the part he/she played and the lessons learnt.

 

Take time off to heal and breathe.

 

Try again having done the first 3 and getting a go-ahead from God as to who and when.

 

Mary: If you were to write a letter to your younger self, what would it be?

 

Titilope Adigun: The letter would be beyond the scope of this interview but here is a sneak peek into  some lines in the letter😁:

 

‘…..Titilope, you are an amazing young woman. Your type is rare. You are not just another girl or lady or daughter or Pharmacy student. There is so much more to you and in you. I want you to know that your future is beautiful, very beautiful so please get sold out to God. He is all you will ever need to navigate the twists and turns of the journey.

 

Please dear, prayerfully and intentionally find covenant friends, with whom you can walk and work making God proud and living amazing lives……..’

 

Mary: Sincere appreciation to you ma for granting the opportunity to have a chat with you.

 

Titilope Adigun: My pleasure.  Well done to you too Mary for what you do on this platform to pass the message to the world. I must say that the questions were really deep and thought provoking😁

 

To every teenager and young adult reading this now or will ever read it, I have said so much in this interview already. Please take time to read and soak in the things I have said, read in between the lines and WHATEVER God asks you to do as regards all that has been said here, JUST DO IT!

 

Now you know, so ignorance is no excuse. This Scripture summarises it so beautifully for me:

 

I write this, dear children, to guide you out of sin. But if anyone does sin, we have a Priest-Friend in the presence of the Father: Jesus Christ, righteous Jesus.

1 John 2:1 MSG

 

So all this was to help you to know and be better but if at anytime you miss it or trip, simply get back up and keep running.

 

Mary: Is the need for sexual purity still valid after marriage?

 

Titilope Adigun: This is so important and it is not so often talked about. It has been discovered that marriage is not the cure to sexual struggles! If sexual purity is not ‘perfected’ before marriage, it would very likely be magnified or be messier in marriage. This is the reason I  said the most valid reason for sexual purity is honouring God in your body. If this is settled, you will keep honouring God with your body even in marriage, where God now says ‘ _Neither the husband nor the wife have exclusive rights to their own bodies, but those rights are to be surrendered to the other.’_

1 Corinthians 7:4 TPT

 

Everything I have said about sexual purity before marriage applies after the wedding. Adultery, whether physical or emotional (or mental), is as grievous a sin before God as any sexual relations(with one’s self or with another person) before marriage.

 

Mary: Is there anything you’ll also like to add ma’am?

 

Titilope Adigun: God, and God ALONE, makes your life ‘fadelessly’ beautiful!!!!!

God, and God alone, makes your life fadelessly beautiful!

Mary: Sincere appreciation to you ma for granting the opportunity to have a chat with you.

 

As we come to a close, what is your word for every teenager or young adult out there?

 

Titilope Adigun: My pleasure.  Well done to you too Mary for what you do on this platform to pass the message to the world. I must say that the questions were really deep and thought provoking😁

 

To every teenager and young adult reading this now or will ever read it, I have said so much in this interview already. Please take time to read and soak in the things I have said, read in between the lines and WHATEVER God asks you to do as regards all that has been said here, JUST DO IT!

 

Now you know, so ignorance is no excuse. This Scripture summarises it so beautifully for me:

 

I write this, dear children, to guide you out of sin. But if anyone does sin, we have a Priest-Friend in the presence of the Father: Jesus Christ, righteous Jesus.

1 John 2:1 MSG

 

So all this was to help you to know and be better but if at anytime you miss it or trip, simply get back up and keep running.

 

As for me, I have chosen to STAY SEXUALLY PURE!

What about you? Let me know in the comment section.

Till I come away again next time, please know that SEXUAL PURITY IS POSSIBLE!!!

 

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10 comments

  1. Owolabi Mary mofiyinfoluwamary

    Wow,i am blessed this morning.
    Thank you Mary for the questions u have been asking, the question is so deep .
    My appreciation also goes to our mummy titilope adigun, God bless you ma for all the answers to the questions. God will increase u ma in every area of ur life.

  2. Oludam

    I just created time to read this now😀The interview session was really amazing,The questions and responses are wonderful….more grace to Mary and Mummy Titilope Adegun

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